It's Complicated! : Part I
Is it
really compulsory to dig up old wounds that will only cause more pain? We need
to constantly assure ourselves that one ugly experience is not a testimony of
going everything wrong ahead. Remember, there is always light
at the end of the tunnel. Read On...Stay Strong!
Sometimes you witness some chapters which could be the darkest of your life. You could feel a vacuum that cannot be filled. Your dreams could turn sour quite soon. In the beginning, you were quite confident and pretty sure; you were so prepared and ready to take on the world. You harbored the thoughts of a smooth ride ahead. You even faced resistance from your near and dear ones. In the meanwhile, a few question marks popped up in your head…but you preferred your mind to shut up and let your heart lose. And almost immediately you found yourself down in the dumps. You looked run down and exhausted. Some people exploited your emotions to meet their ends and your relationships went down different routes. You seemed robbed of your own ‘self’ in countless ways. You became shattered, you lost your smile and you suffered with pain unsung and unknown to the outside world. At the end of the day, it really set you thinking if ‘You Should Have Held Yourself Back’...
But the problem lies in the fact that we never
allow ourselves to be free from the shackles of our dead past. We just go by
the notion that our life is destined to be a tragedy. And at the same time we
feel disappointed, indifferent and tired. We just wish to walk away from
everything. The nasty truth is that we see ourselves standing all alone at the
end of it all and question, “Why does it feel so good but hurt so bad?” Is it
really compulsory to dig up old wounds that will only cause more pain? We need
to constantly assure ourselves that one ugly experience is not a testimony of
going everything wrong ahead. Here Marilyn Monroe is bang on when she states,
“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are….This life is what you
make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal
truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going… Just because
you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold
on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then
who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most
importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much
to smile about.”
And last but not the least, one must stop running always
on a look out for Mr. Right or Miss Perfect. It’s not a very good idea to stir
your heartstrings just at the drop of a hat. Better start developing the right
attitude towards life and a perfect self esteem towards yourself. Do not blame
yourself for any wrong episode. In doing so, you can dig quite a deep pit and
tumble into it. On the contrary, you also cannot stick your head in sand and
pretend that things are not shaky. Accept life the way it is, embrace it with both
hands. They say when life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a
thousand reasons to smile. Your smile is contagious. Don’t let this world change
your smile, let your smile change this world. So, you are in dire need of a
good dose of self-love first. Yes, Love yourself and remain calm. Your life is so
very special. Do not take it at its face value. Remember, there is always light
at the end of the tunnel. Winston Churchill has aptly remarked, “If you are
going through hell, just keep going...tough times are always there in
everyone's life and if you continue to ride on it, you will surely come out of it.”
[to be continued...]
Hi Sir,
ReplyDeleteRead it , had gone through this.
In starting , it was difficult fr me ,
Almost suicidal.as hd evrythng with dt person in my relation.
I made my mother tensed and worried for me , she was into tears
As I was far and completly broken after betrayal.
At that time was going thru lots of feelings , revenge hatred and was completly out of mind.
But I tried also to get over this,
I kept myslf busy sm how. My friends saved from myslf and without them may be i wud have given up life.
But I kept myslf I am a fighter.
At job front I was getting good news as I was working client site.
I had an awesomest time, had done things which I thot i wudnt as money constraints.
But client site , as u knw although Indian client but still dt money hd given me satisfaction.
Now its more than 1yr , I am back on track and much more stable and strong that i use to be.
Had 3 morebreakups but that was mutual and we are still friends unlike my first.
But now m better prepared for life.
My workout regime dts my best friend after that thing , has helped me.
All frustations anger emotions , I kept within myslf and taken that into my gym and dr resulted me becoming a buff.
Cheers life